Category: Of Interest…

Items of interest to the Vaisnava’s C.A.R.E. community and readers.

9 Things You Should Never Say to a Grieving Person

9 Things You Should Never Say to a Grieving Person

Even your most well-intentioned words can definitely hurt. By Liz Steelman When someone dies, the first steps are usually pretty clear: you fill the family’s refrigerator with meals, go to the funeral or attend a viewing, send bereavement cards, or sit Shiva. But after the initial period, the process tends to go off-script. We don’tmore>>

Fear of Death: A Different Kind of Epidemic

Fear of Death: A Different Kind of Epidemic

When most of us think of an epidemic, we think of the rapid spread of disease involving a vast number of people. But there are other types of epidemics, those that are not driven by microbes or poverty, but by human emotions. They are referred to as epidemics of fear and anxiety. Our nation hasmore>>

Doctors are Confused by Living Wills, Study Finds

Doctors are Confused by Living Wills, Study Finds

By Stacey Burling, STAFF WRITER  Philly.com Interpreting a living will is, by definition, a life-and-death activity. So, it’s not comforting that, when hundreds of doctors were asked to decide what nine different living wills and related documents meant, they rarely agreed. Doctors are confused by living wills, a study finds In a new study, themore>>

Self-Care Tip of the Month For Caregivers

Self-Care Tip of the Month For Caregivers

Consider Self-Care a Part-Time Job “You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” ~Eleanor Brownn It’s winter as I write this, and the weather has been downright depressing. Six weeks of little to no sunshine has had a cumulative effect on my spirit. Exercise has been a chore, and I’ve had little motivation to lose themore>>

The 10 Things I Wish My Doctor Had Told Me After Loss

The 10 Things I Wish My Doctor Had Told Me After Loss

At first, I could not eat any food.I could not even smell it.I felt nauseous and my body had almost shut down digestion. No appetite. No remembering to eat.I dropped down to 116 pounds and I didn’t realize it.I looked in the mirror and I didn’t recognize myself.My body did not want to live anymoremore>>

When Death Happens: Tips for Helping The Mourner

When Death Happens: Tips for Helping The Mourner

By Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FT, DCC Above all, show your love. Show up. Say something. Do something. Be willing to stand beside the gaping hole that has opened in your friend’s life, without flinching or turning away. Be willing to not have any answers. Listen. Be there. Be present. Be a friend. Be love. Lovemore>>

Dear every cancer patient I ever took care of, I’m sorry. I didn’t get it.

Dear every cancer patient I ever took care of, I’m sorry. I didn’t get it.

Dear every cancer patient I ever took care of,  I’m sorry. I didn’t get it.  This thought has been weighing heavy on my heart since my diagnosis. I’ve worked in oncology nearly my entire adult life. I started rooming and scheduling patients, then worked as a nursing assistant through school, and finally as a nursemore>>

First, Dispense of False Uncertainty

First, Dispense of False Uncertainty

In My Humble Opinion A primary care physician’s thoughts on medicine and life. By: Jordan Grumet, M.D. Your father is dying. I’m sorry. I know this sucks. It is horrible, and unfair, and heartbreaking. I have been there with my own loved ones and counseled many patients through similar situations. Your brain will try tomore>>

In Grief: “Being There” for Someone in Mourning

In Grief: “Being There” for Someone in Mourning

by Marty Tousley, RN, MS, FT, DCC When your fear touches someone’s pain, it becomes pity. When your love touches someone’s pain, it becomes compassion. ~ Stephen Levine Why is it so hard to “be there” for someone in mourning? If you’re like many other good-hearted, well-meaning people, you may find it difficult to bemore>>

Life is Short!

Life is Short!

By Vaisesika Dasa I met a pathologist recently who works with cancer patients. She explained to me that there is a certain kind of pancreatic cancer that is most deadly and that one who contracts it can survive only a few months, at the most. She said that because of the often-depressing nature of hermore>>