Life is a series of beginnings and endings. The world is filled with change, both positive and negative. Changes are often accompanied by loss and may involve grief. But no loss hits as hard as the death of someone you love. People cope with the loss of a loved one in many ways. There is no right way of coping with death. The way a person grieves depends on the personality of that person and the relationship with the person who has died. How a person copes with grief is affected by their experience and relationship with the person they lost, the way the disease progressed, the person’s cultural and spiritual background, their emotional coping skills, their mental history, their support system, and their history with previous loss.
The terms “grief,” “bereavement,” and “mourning” are often used in place of each other, but they have different meanings. Grief is a natural response to a loss. It is the emotional suffering we feel when we lose someone, as in the case of a loss of a relationship or losing someone to a death. Bereavement is when we suffer a loss or grieve for someone. To mourn is more of the showing of the grief for someone you have lost, such as attending the memorial service and performing certain rituals.
How long you have known the person, how meaningfully and closely your lives have been intertwined, how unexpectedly he or she has died will all affect the depth of your grief and your feelings of loss. Also the age of the person who passed away and the length of the time he or she suffered with a disease may effect your grief. Most of the support that people receive after a loss comes from friends and family. For those who experience difficulty in coping with their loss, grief counseling or grief therapy may be necessary. Grief counseling helps mourners work through the tasks of grieving. Grief counseling can be provided by professionally trained people, or you can receive support in self-help groups where others who are also experiencing grief help one another. This is done with the help of a “Grief Facilitator” who is experienced in this type of counseling.
Toward this end several Vaishnavas CARE Volunteers with professional training and experience in the field of Grief counseling have come forward to assist those in need. Please take the opportunity to write us and we will do our best to connect you to one of our volunteers who can assist you in your time of grief. We may be able to assist in one of the following ways:
*Email correspondence to answer your concerns and questions.
*Phone call conversations and/or Skype meetings to discuss your concerns that cannot be appropriately addressed through written correspondence.
*If there is a Vaishnavas CARE Team in your area we will be happy to connect you to one or more of our volunteers to visit you if you wish.
There is no need for you to feel alone during your time of loss and grief. Please Contact Us and let us know how we can assist you. We are here to help!